Relationships
I was in His Bed One Day When He Came To Lie Over Me And Started Doing Things I Didn’t Expect
He pursued me for a very long time but I kept giving him no as an answer. He asked why. He talked about his dreams for me. He desperately wanted me to be his girlfriend. I didn’t want to because I didn’t see any fun in him.
His whole life was centred around the church. From work to church, from church to house. I wanted a man who had a fire in him. Who liked to have fun. I’m that kind of woman. I want to be taken out. A walk down the beach. A night stroll on an empty street just to catch up on things we missed during the day. I want to be all over the guy I’m dating but I didn’t see such things in the life of Aaron so I kept saying no to him.
One day he told me, “I’m not here to waste your time or use you and dump you. I mean business. A year from now when you’re ready, we can settle down.”
From all the negative things I listed about him, there were positive things too. I wasn’t looking at those. I was fixated on what I didn’t like instead of looking at the good things in him. He had a good job. He was a good Christian. He was calm and was always measured when he talked to me. “I’ve been used and dumped before by those I thought had the qualities I wanted in a man. Why don’t I give this one a chance and see where the wind may take us?”
So one day I said yes to him. I went into the relationship with an open heart and a spirit to learn. It was new to me, the way he did his things but I was ready to learn.
I followed him to church sometimes and he called me at dawn to pray and do quiet time together. I didn’t know about quiet time. With him, I learned how to pray and how to meditate on the words and he made it clear at some point that we were not going to have sex until marriage. I didn’t like the idea but I was in the relationship to learn so I permitted myself to say yes to things that didn’t sit well with me.
I tried my best to also introduce him to things that I love. Like a stroll in the night and going to the beach at night just to put our footprints in the sand.
One night at the beach, he put his hand around my waist and pulled me to his side. We walked that way along the beach and when we finally sat down, he put his hand around my neck while we talked. It was the most romantic gesture he’d ever done since our relationship started four months ago.
I melted in his embrace. I wanted more but I was reminded every step of the way that my needs weren’t going to be met because he had told me no sex until marriage.
One day he kissed me. It was a lousy kiss that came out of nowhere but I took it as the greatest kiss I’d ever had since our relationship. I asked him why he kissed me and he said, “You mean I can’t kiss my girlfriend? My own girlfriend?” I answered, “Oh you can but you have to be firm with it. You don’t kiss your girlfriend as if you’re stealing a kiss from a stranger. Do it well if you want to.”
So we graduated from not doing anything at all to kissing once in a while. It was a step up but each time we did it, during our quiet time, we had to ask for forgiveness. In his eyes, it was a sin and we had allowed our carnalities to win so we had to apologize to God. Because of that, sometimes when he wanted to kiss me, I avoided it and reminded him not to sin.
I was in his bed one day when he came to lie over me and started doing things I didn’t expect him to do. He kissed and tried to touch me where he hadn’t touched me before. I wanted to be sure so I said, “Aaron, is that you? What are you trying to do?” He smiled and got off me. He said, “Sorry, I was trying to be naughty.”
It didn’t end there. Once in a while, he’ll try to have his way with me and I would remind him of his promise—his promise not to do it until marriage. He’ll stop.
I wanted it too. Every ounce of me wanted to be touched that way and be taken whichever way but I didn’t want to be called at dawn and ask to pray about it as if we committed a murder. I hate being made to feel guilty about things I enjoyed so I kept reminding him, putting him in line so he doesn’t go overboard.
One night he tried again but I didn’t have the strength to say no. My hormones were all over the place because it’s been so long since I did such a thing. I felt starved so I let him go all the way until he fell off me with his sweaty skin. He was panting. He felt satisfied. He slept right after that. When he woke up he asked me, “What just happened?”
I answered, “Don’t ask me silly questions. Didn’t you see yourself doing what you were doing? Or you thought it was a dream?”
His mood went downhill. He didn’t talk again until I left his place. As expected, during quiet time, we prayed and asked for forgiveness of our sins. That prayer lasted longer than any prayer we’ve ever said. He was even crying on the phone, telling God it will never happen again. He made it sound like I was the temptress, the Eve who led her Adam to sin. I didn’t counter him because I knew God saw everything that happened. It wasn’t my initiative and God knew that.
From that day, anytime I tell him I’m coming around, he gives me reasons why I should not come to his place. Most of them were excuses and I saw through the lies. I asked, “What about a night stroll? We can go to the beach if you don’t want us to be alone in your room.” He answered, “Those are all grounds of temptation. It’s better we stay at our homes and watch TV and sleep.
For close to a month I didn’t see his face though we were not living far from each other. When I pushed him he told me, “You can come to church on Sunday if you want to see me.”
I went to church because of him and after church, I asked him questions. “How long are we going to remain this way? How long are you going to avoid me?”
He didn’t have answers. All he said was, “It’s the best for us to stay this way than be together and commit fornication.” I said, “Come off it. You’re not a child and you’re not innocent after all so why are you behaving this way?”
He put the blame on me for what happened. He said I led him to temptation and asked why I didn’t say no when it was going too far, “You’re a woman. You should have said no knowing what was at stake, but you didn’t. You should be the pillar that holds us in these times but if you can’t say no then what kind of pillar would you be when we marry?”
The whole conversation was annoying but I bore it all because I wanted to be us again. I wanted us to come back to normal, take a stroll at night and laugh again but however hard a tried, Aaron kept pulling away from me. In the last conversation we had he told me, “My spiritual life is deeply affected since that day. It looks like God is far away from me. When I pray he doesn’t listen to me. I feel empty but I’m trying. I’ll get God on my side again. I need time.”
Eiii…
As I write this, I don’t know whether I’m in a relationship with him or I’m alone in the relationship. All I get from him are excuses. It looks like it’s over but he can’t open his mouth and say it. I feel cheated so I told him, “Aaron, you promised you won’t use me and dump me but the way you’re behaving, it looks like that’s exactly what’s happening. After what happened that day, everything is going downhill and I don’t like it. If that’s your strategy to use and dump me, be clear so I can move on.”
He said I was speaking from the flesh and he wasn’t going to descend into the flesh with me.
I don’t know if I should go left or go right. I’m stuck in a relationship that has been anchored for months. I don’t know but it looks like he wants to frustrate me until I say it’s over. I don’t know. I don’t even know what the question should be because I feel I know the truth but I’m being in denial. Someone should tell me what the truth is. I should move on, right?
Solomon
August 29, 2023 at 9:12 pm
Do u really love him, would you like to be his wife, would u like to support him whole heartedly in his spiritual journey.would u like to be loyal to him all your life.if your answer is in the affirmative and genuinely, I advice you to move on with your life, stop chasing him or troubling him anymore.If truly this guy is serving a true living God he will run back to you before another man takes you away. This is because God almighty see our thoughts and desire, He is seeing everything between the two of you , He will surely reconnect both of you if it is meant to be.but if you are a fake and just pretending all all along, pls go and don’t expect him with you anymore, you are a distraction and dangerous one for that matter
GODFREY
August 30, 2023 at 4:35 am
Hello, stop criticising the lady too much, the back stops with the guy. He is the one who is born again, the light,that should have shown the way , but you see blaming the lady, the darkness, for not guiding him from light.
Again, he aught not to propose to a lady if not ready to settle, Biblically, by the time they engaged in sex, they actually got married (marriage consummated), what you call white wedding is not really marriage according to Bible. So, God will not listen to him, till he takes the lady to his way. They had agreed to be married and they did the act. It is not really sin. Sin is having sex with your wife or husband to be, then running away to be united with another person. Sin is having sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend and then have wedding with a different man or woman. The one u used to know in flesh before is your soulmate, and thus, your wife or husband. That is how God teaches Holiness.
Andy
August 30, 2023 at 8:51 am
You amaze me with your analysis. You said having sex with your girlfriend is not sin, that sin is having sex and going to marry another. Could you please give scriptural support for this assertions? …it is good for a man not touch a woman. Nevertheless,to avoid fornication, let every man has his own Wife and every man her own husband. 1corinthians 7:1-2. That’s the stand of God please, don’t teach wrong and ungodly message please.
Recheal
August 31, 2023 at 4:29 am
Pray to God to give you a deeper understanding about marriage in 1corithians 7:36 read it in different versions of bible and meditate on it ,it will help you so much let me tell we are nolonger under the law because the law factor comes with certain guiltness which is not Godly
Ayo
August 31, 2023 at 7:51 pm
Rubbish analyses….because you have sex with your wife before taking her to the altar doesn’t mean you are right. Sex is only meant for married people. Anything outside that is a sin. Stop misleading people.
Ayo
August 31, 2023 at 7:49 pm
Rubbish analyses….because you have sex with your wife before taking her to the altar doesn’t mean you are right. Sex is only meant for marrid people. anything outside that is a sin.stop misleading people.
Paul
September 1, 2023 at 11:59 am
You are still deeply in darkness. You have been badly misled. Who did this to you? Surely the end has come. People who claim it be christians no longer know the definition of sin again. How can you be having sex with a woman you have not legally married and you said it is not sin. Your are host brother. You need God quickly than you can imagine. God’s mercy will find you. The fear of God is lost in the church. What a pity.
Eric
September 1, 2023 at 1:05 pm
Thank you sir
Pst King Reign
September 12, 2023 at 9:57 am
For one , I have to complement the young lady. In reality here she more of God than the guy. To begin with, if the guy wasn’t ready for marriage then he should have stayed off the relationship issue .No matter what happens the scripture says once two people exchange their vaws ( promise ) of marriage then it’s over . that’s wife and husband . we have a tendance off thinking that marriege happens at the alter, no. look at Joseph and Mary in the bible. My advice to the young lady is,Just be silent and also pray. He will look for you. If He doesn’t , go to church where he worship and shear with the pastor thats only if you love so much in that you can’t stay without him. But if you don’t feel a strong love for him, ask God to forgive you for fornicating and let God give you a man of your choice .
Sydney Shooter
August 30, 2023 at 7:11 am
Pray about it. If God approves the relationship let it come to a fruitful end. Talk to the Pastor or elder in his church so both of you can seat with the Pastor or elder and talk things out. I pray God will direct you in Jesus Christ name Amen.
Mashood Ademuyiwa Adeleke
August 31, 2023 at 8:40 am
Pray fervently well for forgiveness of Sin already committed. Ask God to help you not to fall unto Sin again. Then,with soberness and humility of heart ask God to guide you on how to approach and ask for when he is planning to take you to the altar for solemnization of your marriage. GOD will help you but be very careful, serious and committed to God’s work. Get a department in the Church and be fully committed. It could be Choir or Sunday School teacher.
Danladi
August 30, 2023 at 1:18 pm
Well said sir, you just spoke out my mind. Move on dear what wld be wld be. Just keep a good heart cos God sees you and understands the situation. Holiness is normally misunderstood by people. No sin is greater than another except that against the holy spirit. I stand to be corrected pls. Move on with caution and Stay blessed.
Ugah Francis Ibibi
August 31, 2023 at 12:36 am
Lady, that guy is still in love with you stop worrying yourself he will come back to you but you have to handover everything to God to perfect the relationship also ask for forgiveness.
Oni David Olusesan
August 29, 2023 at 9:40 pm
Advice him to visit you if he doesn’t want you to pay him anymore visit. If he refuses, you can discuss the matter with his pastor. Don’t be ashamed of revealing what transpired between the two of you. God is the ultimate forgiver of our sins. If he doesn’t cooperate then quite the the relationship.
Sam Kemba
August 29, 2023 at 11:41 pm
From my point of view, not yet reached the state of involving a pastor… She’d rather go into his shoes, this time make him listen to her asking God to forgive weakness of comitting fornication!!.
In her prayer should point out how their close meets contributed to their messing up!!!… And this time, not go to church to meet him, but to go to church to meet Jesus!!!.
Jesus will bring revival and reformation in their life, build back his confidence of love to her, and will nature their relationship for the good…
Martins Membere
August 30, 2023 at 4:25 am
It is an open cheque for you to commit to Godly living with full, no-lef, – no-right viewing dedication. Be sold out serving God and building a relationship with God. Wave at him as a fellow brethren, don’t discuss your relationship with him. If he is God-sent or-chosen spouse,you will eventually know. Your true spouse will be revealed. I fear, he is being religious. His Christian life is on a pendulum, he could fall off at anytime. He is a baby Christian. Such person could even get married and still fall for traps of adultery. He needs to solid with God.
JULIUS olowo
August 30, 2023 at 7:31 am
My Oni David Olusesan has offered a valid answer to your predicament. Follow his advice if truely you want him back.
Pamella .k
August 30, 2023 at 3:44 pm
That’s true dear
Richard
August 31, 2023 at 8:00 am
Good one
James Yarclay
August 29, 2023 at 9:51 pm
The gentleman is not serious and you should notlet him hurt you emotionally. He is acting like a cult. If he really loves you he should have proposed to you taking into consideration what he put you through. Intimacy is necessary in a relationship because it bonds you together as potential family. I will give him an option to get marry
ASAP otherwise you can move on.He is not love otherwise he is bluffing you and do not like him put you through that kind of trauma.
Maxwell Agyapong
August 30, 2023 at 12:00 am
U’ll still regret sooner or later when you even get married to him both of you have nothing in common absolutely nothing your man is not mature too neither intimate friendship nor righteousness
Nazzycares
August 29, 2023 at 9:56 pm
Please move on. He has gotten what he want.
CeeDeeM
August 30, 2023 at 1:14 am
Too true 👍🏽
Agneta Bwire
August 30, 2023 at 11:13 am
That is not an innocent man,to me nois like he has played those games with other women before you.
You better move on, i advise you to run fast.
Oldson
August 29, 2023 at 10:46 pm
Lady you shouldn’t be desperately in need of him in your life, continue with your life comfortably as if you never met with him, that man doesn’t know himself and what he wants in his life. He is just religious but not spiritual.
Sunday akinyemi
August 30, 2023 at 6:46 pm
Is a fake man
Onyinye
August 31, 2023 at 3:56 pm
Exactly my dear. This is the kind of thing I fear most in a relationship.
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Chinedu Ejike
August 30, 2023 at 12:09 am
Well’ please kindly don’t move on be patient with him and keep praying with him that is the sign that you are about to marry a godly person , so I thank God that he really understand what he did and start to amend but remember long courtship is not good at all so let’s that relationship be made official try to initiate a Way for him to take you to his pastor and his people and your parents and be consistent with God and be committed to church and God’s work thanks good luck
Pope
August 30, 2023 at 1:03 am
Asides a confused man, the second worst person to date is a confused man. Visit his church a few times but don’t initiate a conversation, if he comes after you, if not move on. He has good principles but us confused. Please don’t be under the leadership of a confused man.
Agado
August 30, 2023 at 3:25 am
Ur are alone this man will starve u to death he used u and dumped u long ago get someone who does what u want but fake savants of GOD takes u for granted get ua self Aman will repent when time is right there is time for everything be blessed
Bonginkosi Sibusiso
August 30, 2023 at 3:52 am
Sad story of you that you have an awful moment again. Bitter taste but there’s life at the end of the tunnel. Good that you are aware of his tricks and he was in love with you in totality but a certain part of your life-conjugal which he consumed. Move on. Don’t waste your time dear. You will surely be settled.
Kingstone Chivave
August 30, 2023 at 3:57 am
I want to contribute my stories
Ajíbádé Àjàyí
August 30, 2023 at 3:58 am
My Sister, please leave him alone for now and keep praying. If he really loves you he will come back for you. God will direct your path.
Kingstone Chivave
August 30, 2023 at 3:59 am
Thank you for creating this platform
Chris
August 30, 2023 at 4:27 am
Go on knowing this man. At least he has proven you are biologically a woman and you have proven he is a man. Now give him some space and and see if he will miss you too. Avoid his house for now but go on meeting at the beach. He will then show his love or just a hit and run character. He will propose and marry you sooner than you think!
GODFREY
August 30, 2023 at 4:40 am
I also feel the lady should report to the Pastor and help unite these people once and for all. They should be forced to forget about engagement and start to live together.
Chulu Richard
August 30, 2023 at 5:39 am
I feel the man should not neglect you completely.he is giving you silly excuses ..why can’t he visit you with his friends?.. The thing which you did is the one happening in marriages.. It’s better he speeds up the marriage process.. tell him that you will report this matter to his pastor because this is mockery to your part.you are his girl and his wife..
Velma
August 30, 2023 at 6:04 am
Tell yourself you’ve had a lucky escape and remove yourself asap. This guy is not mentally stable. I see extremely challenging times ahead of you if you were to ever pursue this relationship.
Stephen
August 30, 2023 at 6:16 am
Too much of anything is always bad. It is good to be spiritual, but if one gets into a relationship, he must do the needful to keep it healthy. I don’t think that is a healthy relationship since he is not yet decided in which year or month to get married. Let him do his spiritual things and as for you, move on if you don’t want to run mad. It was not your fault to try him out.
OWAKARAYE
August 30, 2023 at 6:17 am
Get to understand the basics of his spirituality; it will be a help in why you should not do things that will lead both of you down-the-sex-road. Then, acquire more constructive schedules at work, gym, Church and suggest counseling in YOUR church of choice towards marriage which he promised would be in a year’s time; THEN WATCH HIS REACTION. If he still avoids you, then he’s not ready to commit to U; MOVE ON!
Livingstone
August 30, 2023 at 6:36 am
In Christianity, we advised not to have sex with anyone before we get married officially to them. He is therefore right to believe that both of you sinned. In fact we advised avoid staying in lonely places where we might tempted to have. sex before we officially get married if none of us will be strong enough to resist the temptation of havingsex. So, in my opinion he is a good man to consider for marriage. Just be patient while at the same time praying to the LORD to give you answers. Otherwise, human advice may mislead you.
Basil
August 30, 2023 at 6:46 am
The guy is not serious l will advice you to move on,cause he has. Am a guy like him that’s one of guys strategy to say is over to a woman. Move on sis.
Philokuabor
August 30, 2023 at 6:48 am
Courtship of this nature does not go on for a long time.This is already getting pretty long considering that you only started going to church after you met him. Believers don’t engage in such relationships when they are not yet ready to marry for obvious reasons. Discuss marriage with him and if he is not definite about it please move on. By now as a real believer his pastor should have been involved to guide you. This is not Christian courtship. You flee fornication. You don’t resist it.
Ndurichukwu Godsdove
August 30, 2023 at 7:07 am
If you told this story accurately, I can tell you that he loves you so much. And he loves GOD too. But he was tempted by the passion both of you kindled through those times on the beach and he is thinking you caused it because beaching was your idea. His actions are typical of a genuine Christian who fell into immorality. Stand by him from a distance and assure him you are more interested in his healthy spiritual life than mere pleasure and mean it, he will get back on his spiritual feet again and both of you will find new passions again but when he does, insist on marriage immediately. Reporting him to his Pastor will be betrayal of a sort. Be patient with him and you too should also be remorseful for the act irrespective of the fact that he made the physical move, you made the emotional move first. I know you ladies are the best diplomats of the world who always appear innocent in any intimate relationships with men but silently always kindling them. If you are a child of GOD you too should be remorseful of that act.
Be prayerful and let him know that both of you are bearing that burden together. Your behaviour made it his burden alone, hence the need for isolation from you.
I think your marriage will be awesome if you stick to him through godliness.
Try to bring GOD into that relationship because that’s the only thing that strengthens that young man.
Always pray for him and assure him you are praying for him and sometimes call him just pray for him and after prayer don’t talk of your feelings just bid him bye, this will be most effective if you do it in the nights before bed.
Congratulations in advance for your successful wedding and marriage.
I love both of you but JESUS LOVES you more.
You are blessed.
Rebecca Sieh
August 30, 2023 at 11:57 am
You got a point. And I love this comment.
Martha favor
August 30, 2023 at 3:22 pm
This man surely loves you. The best thing you can do to yourself and him is to give him space. Right now he feels he’s not right with God and if you pressure him with meeting and doing all those lovey dovey stuff just to prove that you two are still together, he might just consider you the source of his spiritual downfall and he might consider cutting you off. First work on yourself and have a personal relationship with God. If you have not confessed Christ (given your life to Jesus) please do so and begin you spiritual growth on a personal level and not going to church because he’s invited you.
Sincerely show him that you care and repent also. Pray about your relationship and make God the foundation of your friendship. As you pray give him some space to find himself.Be his friend and not his lover. Listen to him more than talking.Be patient with him he will eventually come around.
When everything goes back to normal.. you guys should get married.
Ariko Ateker Joseph
August 30, 2023 at 3:28 pm
I have gone through comments this comes close to help you out.some comments lack a spiritual dimension my sister starting with you, you need more time to pray for long hours to come close to this man’s spiritual Revelations, I speak without condemning any of you but as a reminder what happened was fornication. And it’s sin. Now the spiritual interactions that he has been exposed to don’t happen again.on two occasions it happened to me and God revealed me how the demons collected my semen during the act. When God gives His grace,we see with spiritual eyes just the way you are with physical eyes,kkkkkkk my dear those days when I was religious and not a firm believer of Jesus Christ I thought it was conning, but when you pray and fast for as it happened to me a year plus for these spiritual videos to manifest to me,sin makes spiritual black out. You struggle to pray,to experience spiritual Revelations none comes by so, sister leave the world and ask,seek and knock the door it will be opened to you and marriage is secondary.
This man considers his relationship with God first and second to none, that is why he has switched off, to revive that relationship,so develop your relationship with God too so that marriage will go according to His will.
Stop going to church because of him, God will not reveal Himself to you. Go seeking God and you will get surprises for yourself.
Mohammed lbrahim
August 30, 2023 at 7:19 am
My sister some time it is hard to believe that the person you love so much is treating you this way but I assure you that, that peace and comfort he had in you if it real he shall not find in any other woman but you my dear. May Allah let not your endeavors be in vain. He will definitely come back since love was made by Allah.Just delay his text messages and calls for a month.
Afolabi Oyewola
August 30, 2023 at 7:30 am
If the story is just as it has been narrated, the temptation is normal. But the man as a spiritual being was not guided. If he runs away from this relationship because he has fornicate and get into another relationship, he will still fall into fornication with another serious minded woman. The best thing to do now is to present himself before his spiritual father. The sincere question of whether he loves the lady will be asked. If yes, they should be encourage to marry. A brighter future is ahead of them. God forgives any sin if we’re sincere and ready to forgive ourselves.
Onuigbo Lawrence
August 30, 2023 at 8:55 am
The way forward is simple. You also should love the Lord and serve with all your heart. Build your own spiritual life through the word of God, prayers, and regular fellowship with the people of God. When he sees repentance and salvation in you, he will come back for you. Marriage is more than what you see on the surface. No man wants to marry a lousy women. Jesus Christ will help you.
Gbenga
August 30, 2023 at 8:11 am
You are not seeing things the same way with him because you are not born again. Going to church because of him is a wrong, you should go church to meet God. The guy will not run away if you join together with him n the spirit. He will be so happy the he knows you have accepted Jesus as your Lord and Saviour.
Otu Emmanuel
August 30, 2023 at 9:27 pm
Go on with your simple life, his types are all over the place. Try and keep to your personality because there are no two you in this whole wide world. You would have held firm to your standards without trying to be funny with him by giving in to his details.
princewill ogbuibe
August 30, 2023 at 9:44 am
If truly he loves u and meant what he told u at first there is no reason behaving like that.if he wants to do things the right way he should start planning for ur wedding of tell u he is not interested so that u can move on.Finally confront he and tell him to give u an answer of he will never see u again he might change.
Cyprian Edward-Ekpo
August 30, 2023 at 12:51 pm
Your guy is both spiritually and mentally immature.
He is self-righteous. Self-righteousness is not holiness.
He has not overome flesh or cannot have discipline of the flesh, yet he refuses to accept it , but blame it on you people being physically close.
The first thing you must ask yourself, is, will you have a happy marriage together ? Are you folks compatible ?
Are you okay with a man who shys away from the truth instead of sitting down together to discuss how you can overcome your challenges ?
In all you say, it appears the only value you people consider in your relationship is how to stay away from sex until after marriage. That neither make a happy marriage nor guarantee heaven.
Senator Mike
August 30, 2023 at 4:35 pm
Ask him to visit you but you must be determined not to do against his wish. You both can have a good and understandable discussion Ans set out boundaries. It is possible to relate closely without immorality. True love exist, no ill-feelings in a good loveable relationship.
Doublelight
August 31, 2023 at 12:40 am
Dear lady, allow the young man you are dating to serve God. Be serious in serving God. At least has taught you how to read and study the Bible and pray. Go and pray. Ask God to talk to you about your relationship with him.
Please stop lusting after him. Stop pulling him down. Give him time to hear from God
Taiwo Fatokun
August 30, 2023 at 9:29 pm
Since you guys are already burning as Apostle Paul would put it, go & marry each other, so that you would no longer commit fornication.
LAWRENCE
August 31, 2023 at 9:43 am
You don’t have to conclude that it’s over between the two of you. What you should understand is that, a man with with conscience hardly disappoints because if he does that he is disappointing God by not keeping to the promises he to you with biblical background. Since he had told you to give him some time to reconnect his spiritual life back to God, help him to understand that the very act that took place between the two of you was his actions that led to it. Also let him know (if both of your parents are aware of the relationship) that it’s not a sin according to the book of 1Cor. 7:36-37. Finally, always support him, call him and pray for him as well.
LAWRENCE
August 31, 2023 at 9:47 am
You don’t have to conclude that it’s over between the two of you. What you should understand is that, a man with conscience hardly disappoints because if he does that he is disappointing God by not keeping to the promises he made to you with biblical background. Since he had told you to give him some time to reconnect his spiritual life back to God, help him to understand that the very act that took place between the two of you was his actions that led to it. Also let him know (if both of your parents are aware of the relationship) that it’s not a sin according to the book of 1Cor. 7:36-37. Finally, always support him, call him and pray for him as well and stop suggesting night beach stroll to him that can lead to another similar occurrences.
Joni
August 31, 2023 at 10:33 am
Look for another man
Francis
August 31, 2023 at 12:01 pm
Bro that which is of a self mind doesn’t go far the woman of your life is the only one you pursue for if not she then you are already loosing it pray on it let it the driving force of your spirituality learn to comunne with God He will predirect your path
Paul
August 31, 2023 at 12:22 pm
You did not commit any offense.try to keep away and see if he will call me I back.
H P
August 31, 2023 at 8:16 pm
The guy is still a boy and not yet a man. He just used you and is now making excuses. He promised to have sex only after he had married you and he broke his promise and it is very likely he broke everything. Move on and don’t allow him rub his sins on you.
Akar
September 1, 2023 at 8:12 am
My sister,he is indirectly telling you it is over.
Henry Omolo
September 1, 2023 at 8:54 am
You are open to him but he is secretive. In a relationship people must be open to strengthen trust between them. God will grant you your rib, the man is not serious. The tactics he used is very wrong
Victor
September 1, 2023 at 12:26 pm
Just let go my sister is no saint
King Kae
September 1, 2023 at 10:00 pm
Sometimes some church folks appear so stupid calling it spiritual. You initiated the whole process and now you are acting like you were victimized. Lady I will be frank with you he is no different from the club guys, forget about him. Don’t reach out to him, just move on with your life. This is a bad red flag you will need to watch out for. He will also blame you for other things whenever they don’t go well because he has built this perfection around himself and that’s a facade. A man that cannot control his desires for food and sex cannot control the path of his life. Forget about him and move on. One love
Albert N. Vaye
September 1, 2023 at 10:31 pm
Lady your story is interesting but also paining.
Just move on I know it’s hard and never look back. He’s deceitive