I’m a 24-year-old woman who had a troubling experience with my boyfriend recently. To make things clear, let me provide some information about our relationship. We’ve been together for four and a half years, and he’s generally a caring and reasonable person.
He always tries his best to make me happy and treats me well. He has never shown any signs of aggression towards me or anyone else, especially when he’s been drinking. That’s why what happened was so out of the ordinary for him.
Let me explain what led up to the incident. We were out with a group of close friends, having a good time dancing. I hadn’t drunk much and was still sober, but he had consumed quite a bit of alcohol. While we were dancing together, something strange happened. Suddenly, he grabbed my face, looked directly into my eyes, and said, “you’re mine.” He lightly tapped my cheek and ear with his hand.
I felt uncomfortable and tried to pull away, calling his name. But instead of letting go, he held my head tighter and pulled me closer, and then he slapped me on my cheek and eye very hard. It hurt so much that my ear felt blocked, and my jaw ached. I quickly moved away and sat down on a chair. My best friend and her boyfriend came over to me, seeing that I was holding my cheek in pain.
They asked what had happened, and I told them he had hit me. I was sh0cked when my best friend said, “He didn’t mean it, of course.” I couldn’t find the words to respond. He tried to approach me later, but I pushed him away. Despite feeling off, my friend reassured me, and I decided to continue the night.
After some time to think, I decided to talk to him about what happened. At first, he denied hitting me and said he only raised his voice. I kept insisting that he did hit me, and finally, he said, “I’m sorry if I did.”
Some relevant information is that we recently had sex for the first time a few weeks ago, and since then, he’s been acting possessive.
By sharing these details, I want to convey the complexity of the situation and how it affected me emotionally. It’s important to acknowledge that this incident is not typical of my boyfriend’s usual behavior, but it can’t be ignored or downplayed.
what can i do now?